Choosing Where to Live When You Care About Ambition and Balance
After 12 years in the Bay Area and four in Auckland, we’re at a crossroad. We slowed down a bit in coming to NZ, and we’re ready to build up again. This has us considering where to live for the best combination of ambition and balance. In weighing places like Auckland and the Bay Area—two locations we consider excellent for various reasons—I’m finding it helpful to go beyond first-order effects. The truth of life is more complicated. Our family values striving, growth, and work. We also value presence, health, connection, and not feeling like life is slightly ahead of us. With two pre/teen kids, a pressing question isn’t “Where can we win?” but “Where does life feel enriching?” I’ve come to see that quality of life isn’t determined by the headline factors. It shows up in the defaults and background norms. Here are the less obvious factors that matter to us. Time is Currency At our current stage of life, time sovereignty matters more than almost anything else. This isn’t just ho...